James Bay ‘Let It Go’


Scripture: Ephesians 4:31 – 32 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

The moment I heard this song it immediately resonated with my spirit. It wasn’t just because I happen to love the sound of James Bay’s voice or the the catchiness of the chorus. Don’t get me wrong that helped a lot, but as I listened to it I realised that it perfectly summed up how I feel about a particular friendship.

Me and the particular individual went from being very close to one another, to barely being able to stand in each other’s presence for more than 5 minutes. There was no big bust up, neither were any foul words exchanged it just seemed that at some point an inexplicable distance formed between us and we have never been able to close it. However, rather than accept that fact for what it is, I would tell myself that that person was in the wrong, that they had not treated me fairly. I would analyse all the conversations we had over the course of our friendship and look for inconsistencies, and keep a record of all their misdemeanors in my head, just in case I should ever need to justify the coldness that had come to replace the warm friendship we once enjoyed.

I did all of that not to feel self righteous but because I couldn’t understand what had happened to our wonderful friendship and I felt hurt by what had become of us. I had prayed about forgiveness but was too busy seeking out answers to actually really let the holy spirit minister to me about how how to actually forgive. Yet as I listened to this chorus for the first time I realised that in all my prayers about forgiveness I thought I was suddenly going to feel compelled to run up to this person and give them a hug and that everything would return to how it had been. Yet that just simply is not the case. Forgiveness is about letting go. It is a conscious choice that we must make if we want to move forward. It is one that needs to be made irrespective of how disappointed we are about the way things turned out. Ephesians 4:31 tells us that we should put bitterness and malice away from us. That is, in my mind bible speak for what James Bay sings so passionately on his chorus. We need to let it go. Let’s forget the anger and frustration we feel and decide to let things go. Certain situations need to be left where they are because nothing can be done to improve them; so rather than focus on those things let us instead focus on what we are able to change.

As I am writing this I am filled with apprehension because I am going through a season where my ability to forgive is being tested on a daily basis and I am not finding it easy at all. Nevertheless, the reality is I know this to be true, I desire to move forward but I can’t progress if I keep my mind in the past.
I pray that God will help all of us to leave things in the past and focus on what is at hand. I pray in Jesus name that we will be able to erase hurts from the past from the pages of our mind and instead fill our minds with new memories.  People come into our lives at different seasons, for different reasons and when their time is up I pray we would wholeheartedly thank the Lord for whatever lessons they have left in their wake.


Song: Cyril Hahn ‘Perfect Form’


Scripture: Ephesians 5:15 –  Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise

I am particularly fond of the saying ‘If it seems too good to be true it probably is!’ I realise this is probably an indication of my cynicism but this was not always the case. The idea that things are not always as they seem has been a concept that has taken me a while to grasp and in spite of numerous lessons, I do on occasion forget what life has taught me and leave myself open to a very rude awakening.

In this world regardless of religion, belief, colour or creed the fact is that no human being takes kindly to being taken for a ride. This being the case you would think that we would take all necessary precautions to ensure that decisions that we make have been made bearing in mind all possible factors that could impact the outcome. Yet this is far from the case. We rush head first into situations because they appear convenient, or even great at the start, but our lack of foresight means that what appears to be so wonderful and inviting soon reveals the ugly truth that lies within.

Cyril Hahn’s house track ‘Perfect Form’ though an unlikely choice to feature on a christian blog, does do a fantastic job of highlighting the very careless nature described above, and in doing so highlights the reason for Paul’s warning in Ephesians chapter 5. We must be cautious in our everyday lives and consider actions and decisions carefully, for this is how we will ‘walk as wise’.

The context of the song applies to relationships and getting involved with someone because they appear ‘perfect’ and this is something that we all do. We develop affections for people and things based on the most superficial and unimportant things and later feel angry with ourselves when the reality that nothing of substance will come from the friendship/ relationship that we were so quick to form, hits us.

This post will certainly apply more to some than to others but the truth is that if the more impulsive ones amongst us (myself included) challenge themselves to put a bit more thought into actions and decisions there will be far fewer instances for regret to arise in our lives. So the next time you’re about to get tongue tied and forget your lines, why don’t you stop and rationalise. Take the challenge and ‘walk as wise’!